Let Go of “Must See” and “Have To.”

In 2018, I came home from a mini-trip to London.

It was lovely.  I was shocked to find that I actually enjoyed London, even though I usually don’t like big cities and even though I was freezing.  I loved wandering the streets, experiencing the atmosphere and roaming freely.

Did you notice some of the verbs I used there:  Wander. Experience. Roam. 

I think all too often we let itineraries and plans hold us back from really experiencing a culture or a city.  I’ve been guilty of this all too often, especially as I find myself getting back into the groove of traveling.  I fill my mind with places I absolutely have to go to and sights I simply must see.  But in the process of doing this, I lose sight of experiencing a city for itself.  Of standing still and taking in the smells and sounds of a unique place.  Of just existing.

For example, Stonehenge was a place that I just “had” to go to while I was in London.  I booked tickets for my last day and was all prepped and ready to go when Tuesday morning came…except when I woke up, I realized I didn’t want to.  I didn’t feel like getting on a three hour tube ride and listening to someone tell me what to do.  I just wanted to be on my last day, I just wanted to experience.

So, instead, I spent the entire day wandering Kensington Palace Gardens.  I stumbled across sights that I didn’t even know were there.  I played with the many, many dogs off their leashes (because that was a common thing) and let my feet take me to my next destination without Googling all of the memorial sights or statues in the park.


When I came across this memorial to Alfred the Great, I had no idea what it was at first, and that made it all the more enchanting. 

And I felt like I stumbled across so many treasures. By not knowing what I was coming upon until I got there, it felt like I was some kind of true explorer, traveling an uncharted territory.  Maybe some people will say I missed out on seeing Stonehenge and that what I did was boring in comparison, but I don’t think so.  I feel like I got to play discoverer for the day and when I look back on my time in London, this will be the day that sticks out to me the most.


Inside a church I stumbled across called St. Mary’s Abbott.  I was so taken by the gentle and quiet atmosphere that I wanted to spend all day inside these ornate walls. 

The church above is one that I came across by chance and that I’m sure probably isn’t a “hot spot” location, but I have never been so enchanted by a church as I was by St. Mary’s Abbott.  When I entered, there was one parishioner praying.  It was such a reprieve from the hustle and bustle of the touristy areas where you can’t move two inches without stumbling into someone else.  I could just sit and reflect and think and be.

I could just be.  

What did you reflect on the last time you traveled? 

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